Grief Coaching and Spiritual Living

Part Seven From Hope to Heartbreak: Navigating the Journey of Love, Loss, and Resilience

Dr. Donna

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Imagine waking up to a day filled with hope and gratitude, only to have it shattered by an unimaginable tragedy. We walk alongside a mother recounting the days leading up to Mother's Day, filled with gratitude for her son's successful surgery and hopes for a joyous celebration at home. Through her heartfelt conversations, we witness the tender bonds and the optimism that surrounded her family during these times, as her son began regaining his strength with the unwavering support of loved ones. But what happens when the narrative takes a devastating turn, leaving her in a whirlpool of grief and disbelief?

This episode captures the raw and profound emotions of a parent navigating the sudden loss of a child. Through the mother’s poignant words, we experience the shock and heartbreak of receiving the unimaginable news of her son’s cardiac arrest and passing. As she shares her journey from hope to heartbreak, we explore themes of love, loss, and resilience, offering a space for empathy and understanding. Join us for a deeply moving story that reminds us of the fragility of life and the enduring strength of the human spirit in the face of overwhelming sorrow.

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So this is part seven. You know it's May 5th. A single denial by this time, and you know who cares about single denial. But we're actually thinking about Mother's Day, because Mother's Day was coming up soon and you know we thought what are we going to do for Mother's Day? Because he'd probably be out of the hospital and it's such a blessing that he survived Well out of the hospital and it's such a blessing that he survived Well.

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I singled him out and I knew I had to go home and see some clients and so I went home and you know I saw some clients and I told them you know what was going on and why I was gone and you know they were all great people, always had great clients, and you know they wished me well and wished him well. And I remember you know it's May 6th and you know, of course I'm calling my son and checking in on him. And I called him May 6th and I said how are you doing? And you know he says I'm doing better, he's starting to get his faculties back. How are you doing? And you know he says I'm doing better, he's starting to get his faculties back. He wasn't so loopy after, you know, like he was after surgery and you know we were talking and he says you know, my girlfriend, she's just spoiling me and babying me, and and the nurses and everybody, and I'm tired of everybody babying me, I don't want to be babied. And I said look, this is the last time you're probably going to get babied, so just enjoy it, hon. And I said I love you, you mean a lot to me. And he goes I love you too. And you know I didn't feel anything weird at all. I didn't feel anything strange was going to happen. And so I went about my evening.

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I woke up and his father, who was still up in, you know, at Stanford with him, he said Brandon's not doing well. And I said what do you mean? He's not doing well, he had a successful surgery. I was just talking to him and he explained to me that my son had went to the bathroom and he couldn't stop going. He was having number two and he couldn't stop doing that and he was getting frustrated. He's like it won't stop, it won't stop. And then he just started having all these weird symptoms and you know, I, he, I don't know what was going on exactly, because his father was trying to explain to me. But of course his father's like what's going on and his father shared a whole time. So of course you know my son's team, you know healthcare team. They're coming in and they're checking in on him and all of a sudden you know he's needing life, him. And all of a sudden you know he's needing life. You know the CPR and stuff and they're trying to revive him.

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And you know, I didn't know this part was going on yet, but I called back and I said how's Brandon doing? And you know he just they put the nurse on the phone. The nurse said I gotta put the nurse on the phone. The nurse said I got to put the doctor on the phone. So his father didn't say anything. The nurse didn't say anything. The doctor said he went into cardiac arrest and passed away. And I just could not process it's like what in the actual F just happened. He was doing fine. I talked to him, he's doing great, and then you know you call me. You know I call in the morning. You tell me you know that it's not going well and you know what do you do with that. He just said brandon's not doing well and then I call back and I'm told that he passed away and the doctor she goes well, don't drive to the airport, don't drive at all. Get somebody to take you.

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And you know, I just remember, you know, walking to my neighbor. I lived in a condo complex and I walked over to my neighbor but I said I need you to take me to the airport please, because I can't drive. And I just found out that my son passed away after having successful brain surgery. And I remember walking back to my unit to get my things and I just let out this scream. And I just let out this scream and you know the way that the complex was, the way that the complex was, it, you know, was a square, so all of our units were built around a square and in the middle was like a pool, and you know you can walk. And I just let out this echoing scream. And you know it was like 6 am, like I'm not sure the time, somewhere around there and I just thought this is not happening. And so I went back and to meet my neighbor and she drove me to Burbank Airport.