Grief Coaching and Spiritual Living

Part 11 Navigating the Depths of Sorrow and Love

Dr. Donna

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What happens when the natural order of life is disrupted, and a parent must face the unimaginable pain of losing a child? Our latest episode invites you to join a deeply personal conversation with a courageous mother who shares her heart-wrenching journey through grief. She opens up about the surreal experience of organizing her son's funeral and the intense emotions that accompany such a profound loss. The episode shines a light on how society struggles with discussing death, particularly when it occurs out of sequence, leaving many unsure of how to offer comfort and support.

Through her candid storytelling, our guest reveals the depth of her sorrow and the gaping void left by her son's absence. She reflects on the unique bond they shared, particularly the strength and meaning he brought to her life as a young parent. This episode provides a compassionate space for listeners, whether you're navigating your own grief or supporting someone through theirs, offering solace and insight into the raw and often unspoken aspects of losing a loved one. Join us for a moving exploration of love, loss, and the enduring power of memory.

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Speaker 1:

So this is part 11. You know. So we have his funeral. Right, it's May 16th, we have his funeral, but a couple of days before I arrive at his dad's house and you know, stay there with everyone. And you know I had my family members who were going to be there at the funeral but I just stayed, you know, with his father and his girlfriend and that part of my son's family and you know a lot of people were coming around, right, and you know they're sitting around and they're talking and you know, remembering and trying to be supportive. But it's just like I remember playing this role of just going through the motions and then, you know, the day of the funeral, we were all just sick, like, is this really happening? You know, it was just very hard and you know we were literally nauseous going through this. But you know, I remember, remember the viewing, because the viewing was a couple days prior and you know a lot of people came.

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But you know people don't know what to say, they don't know what to do and and they're uncomfortable because they have kids and they would fear losing a child. And what I realized about grief is it is the most not talked about topic. I mean we all are going to leave this earth at one time or not. That's the only guarantee after you're born that one day you will pass away. And yet we are very uncomfortable with death. And when death is out of order and it happens to the kid prior to the parent or you know you lose a spouse or something's just out of order. Right, because it's supposed to be that you grow old, but first your parents, you know you take care of them, they live a long life, they go, and then you go, and then you know the kids. It's supposed to be some type of order. You're supposed to grow up with your spouse and everything's out of order. When a child passes and it scares the holy f out of people and they don't know what to say and they're just hoping that it doesn't happen to them. So you know, there's this uncomfortable moment where viewing his body is like, okay, it's real, you know he's been embalmed, the whole thing, he's no longer here, he's not gonna come back.

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And then the funeral, and again that's very numbing. And watching the casket get lowered it's very hard and you just are like, wow, that's it, there's no more. There's no more him, he's gone. And for people who have gone through this. You know like for me, I felt cut in half. I felt like my soul was just cut in half. I don't know how other people feel. If I, it could be numbing, it could be painful, it could be anger, it could be, but I felt like my soul was cut in half because my son was a very important part of my life. I always say that my son made my life and I will tell you about why I say my son was so important and made my life have meaning. It was not just being a parent, because I was a young parent, I was a teen parent.