Grief Coaching and Spiritual Living

Part 13 A Mother's Love and the Quest for Resilience

Dr. Donna

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What happens when life throws curveballs that feel beyond comprehension? Join us as we explore this question with our incredible guest, who transformed her life amidst the challenges of foster care and teen motherhood. Her son, Brandon, became her guiding light, inspiring her to pursue education and build a future that once seemed impossible. From earning a GED at 16 to attending chiropractic school, she shares how her unwavering love for her son fueled her journey against all odds. This episode is a poignant reminder of the power of resilience and the profound impact of a child's love in shaping one's destiny.

Our conversation takes a heartfelt turn as we delve into the heartbreaking loss of her son and the emotional aftermath that ensued. She opens up about grappling with grief, the fear of losing loved ones, and the often awkward interactions with those trying to offer support. Through candid reflections, she sheds light on the path to healing and redefining one's purpose in the wake of tragedy. Her story is a testament to hope, perseverance, and the strength found in a parent's love, even amid unimaginable heartbreak. Tune in to hear her inspiring journey of navigating life's toughest challenges with grace and determination.

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Speaker 1:

Okay, this is part 13. So my son wasn't just a kid that I had as a teen mom. It was okay, I no longer want to die. You know everything's hard, you know I ended up, you know, living with that sibling again and then living with some friends, and none of that went well and then I ended up in the foster care system. But I have my son with me and it inspired me to say do something with your life, make sure that, because this little person's watching and is seeing everything, make sure you do something for this little person.

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So Brandon was so significant and kept me alive and that, I feel like, was his purpose and I always thought, wow, you know, for us parents who have lost kids, why, what? What is the meaning? You know, we just wanted to raise our kid and have them grow up and they bury us someday. Right, they take care of us or we take care of them and they bury us someday. Well, my son was my guardian angel, sent in a human form. I have a lot of spiritual beliefs and that one's big to me. I am 10 toes down on that that he was my guardian angel and he inspired me to stay in school, to get through everything and to go on with life. And yes, it was hard, because we're in welfare and sometimes there are cussy issues with his dad and I had to become this very strong, feisty person and I don't know if I would have had that without him More than likely no. But I became very tough and I had that F you attitude You're not messing with me, you're not messing with my kid. I wasn't scared of anyone. I mean, I've stood up to gang members. I had to when we lived in the projects. So my son gave me life and that's why it just really took me to my knees trying to understand why is he no longer here? It's like he made me who I am.

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I got through school. I ended up getting a GED a GED at 16 so I can go on to trade school to become a medical assistant. Then I went to junior college and I went on to continue college and go to chiropractic school and and all of that was because of having a son, a little person who's observing me, and I wanted to show him, no matter what we're going through because, yes, we're on welfare and I work little jobs here and there going through school you can get through anything and you can still make your life what you want it to be, and there are no true obstacles. As long as you're alive and breathing, there aren't true obstacles that will stop you. So he was my motivator.

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None of that would have happened if he wasn't alive. I probably would have been out on the streets. I don't know what would have happened to me, but I wouldn't have done the things that I did. He was truly my inspiration and that's why I was so devastated through all this. It was just super challenging and I thought where do I go from here? And this is what really got to me. When I was seeing all the TikToks come up with parents who had just lost a kid, I said I remember being there. It's like where do you go from here? You know if you have other kids, yes, you take care of them, but you know what if you have a fear of losing another one? Where do you go from here? And you know it's like you don't know and people say crazy things to you because they're uncomfortable and I felt really just stuck. So I'm going to talk about different things that happen and how I navigate it through all of this in the following videos that I do.