Grief Coaching and Spiritual Living

Finding Light in Darkness: Building a Compassionate Support System Through Grief

Dr. Donna

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Amidst the profound anguish of losing a child, our guest embarked on a transformative journey through grief, one that reveals the often hidden layers of healing. This episode focuses on their quest for solace and understanding, initially through conventional channels like grief coaching and support groups, including the unique space of a pet grieving group. Yet, the difficulty in finding a therapist skilled in the intricacies of child loss propelled them toward unexpected avenues of support. Our guest shares the powerful impact of connecting with a spiritual coach who, despite lacking personal experience in child loss, offered unwavering wisdom and presence. This connection became a cornerstone in helping our guest reclaim their identity and navigate the dark path of grief.

Gain critical insights and heartfelt advice on constructing a support system that transcends family and friends. Our conversation underscores the importance of discernment in choosing the right professionals and spiritual guides. Whether you are anticipating a loss or are currently in the midst of grieving, this episode serves as a poignant reminder of the power of having the right people by your side. Our guest's story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the healing potential that lies in finding those who can genuinely hold space for your emotions. This episode is an invaluable resource for anyone facing the overwhelming weight of grief, providing guidance and support for the long road ahead.

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Speaker 1:

I did the grief group, grief coaching, and that was great. Agafi is great and it helped to be there with other people who are dealing with grief. One thing about Agafi is that they even had a pet grieving group. That was outstanding. But I knew that I needed something more for me, that I needed to find the right therapist, and you know that was very hard.

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A lot of therapists are not equipped for child loss or grief at all. I mean, I was searching and I was calling and I was doing all I can to find someone and I couldn't find someone who got it, who resonated, and it was very painful and it caused me to feel very scared for my well-being. Was I going to survive this? Was I going to get depressed and not want to be around? I was really trying to sort through it out. I think resources are a lot better now, 16 and a half years later. The internet has made more therapists available in other places. You could do all this online therapy, but there wasn't much of that back then.

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But what ended up happening was I found a spiritual coach who didn't experience child loss, but they had a lot of wisdom and awareness and support. They knew how to hold space for me and they knew how to listen without trying to make me feel a certain way. And I learned that when you go through grief, you've got to have the right people around you. You got to have people who have done their healing work, who are in a healthy space, who can handle other people's emotions, because a lot of people could not handle my emotions at the time and a lot of people left my life and you know it was shocking at first. I realized that when I look back, they couldn't handle their own stuff. How can they handle mine? And when I found this coach, it helped me to find my way to back to being me.

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After losing a big part of me, losing my son, I felt cut in half, I felt lost, and this person was in a healthy place where they didn't want to bypass emotions. They believe in feeling the weight of life and who we are and what we go through, and they were able to help me to facilitate through this and I could have all the emotions and didn't have to explain anything. I didn't want and didn't, you know, have to feel like I needed to feel something different, other than what I was feeling. So I would say for anyone going through grief you gotta find it's hard because you're foggy right and you just want help, but you gotta find also a way to use discernment and make sure you have the right people around you.

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And if you're in the process of about to lose someone and you haven't lost them yet, but you know you're going to lose them start lining up your resources now and your support system now. Don't just rely on family and friends because they're going to fall short. You need some professionals, you need someone who's spiritual, you need someone who can be there for you and that's something that I learned. Not everyone can for you and that's something that I learned. Not everyone can hold space and that's something that I've learned to do for other people. But I didn't have that at first and when I got it, it made the difference for me to start doing this painful walk of being a grieving mom.